What Women Want

I realize this post is a little late in the discussion, but I have not been able to stop thinking of the pornography discussion in relation to what women want. I was in Barnes and Noble with a friend the other day, and we decided to browse through the romance novel section to see if it reflected some of the things we talked about in class. Out of about 30 books we looked at, only one of those had the woman character on an equal plane as the male character of the story. In every other book , a woman was taken captive by a man. She either ended up falling in love with her captor or falling in love with the man who rescued her from her captor. All of the loves scenes (save one) had an element of force or fighting involved. It made me wonder, after the extensive discussion we had in class, what women really want.
Our discussion centered around women desiring to be equal with men in romance. But based on Hollywood, best-selling romance novels and adult movies, that does not seem to be true. This leaves me wondering what women really want? Do we want a hero to ride in on a white horse and save us? Or, do we want to steal that white horse and save ourselves? I must admit I am really confused. I assume that most men are as well!
I think many women want both things. Most of the time I take pride in doing things myself. Sometimes I just want a hero to do it for me! Two weeks ago I was in a car accident. After it happened the only thing I wanted to do was call my husband and have him wrap me up in his arms and save the day. This surprised me. Up until that point I had taken great pride in the fact that I could handle any and every situation on my own since he has been in Iraq. After the accident I realized I have a split personality. And to be honest, I don't think there is anything wrong with that.
I guess the difficulty in this situation is representing both sides of desire without losing our independence or dependence in the process. Good luck, ladies.